~ Feminity ~

Hmm.. Is this a strange word for us christian gals or is it just me? I'm intrigued by the fact that this word can have so many interpretations! Somehow, lots of the ppl I know seem to think that

feminine = pink, girly, long fingernails, always pretty, sweet, long curly hair, motherly, etc etc..

So.. what should the Christian view be?

I found this post here on the "Makings of a True Woman".

It appears that most ppl nowadays (including blur little ole me) often get confused on the true meaning of being a woman according to God. :)

Femininity, they reckon is an attitude of receptiveness, responsiveness, the heart that respects authority, softness, purity.

Which the bible says is (1 Pet 3:1) :

• The Bible says those things are powerful
  
• Those things can change the world.
• They can change the heart of a wayward husband.
• They can change the heart of an unbelieving husband.
• The respect and the womanliness of our behavior is a powerful thing.

SO, "wanting to control" which God did mention is something we females will get up to one day (Gen 3:16) is simply one word.. UN-feminine.. Not God's design!

I remember one wise lady once told a group of us (and several other different ladies told me personally in different occasions) that we as women find it HARD to be submissive and let the guy take the lead.. Particularly when we feel "right".. (PS: is it just me, or do other ladies feel this way as well?)

The article I read did say that when this lady tried to be the "head" in her marriage, it just didn't work out. God HAD to be the head.. *gosh* this is SO true for me too! haha.. anyways, I'm not married yet, but even in my relationship now, I still find it hard to submit to the guy's lead and surrender all to God!

More often than not, when something strikes me as "wrong" in my fiance, I (in all my KESOMBONGAN) don't pray FIRST and ask God what to do.. But rather, try and resolve it myself.. How? easy! have a chat with him about the issue..

Err.... Wrong answer!! more often than not, he's got a really huge unwillingness to listen.. despite my method of delivery.. I can wrap things up in the sweetest words and let him know in the nicest way, but errrr... NOT getting through!

BUT now when I jog my memory.. I recall, when I DO pray to God first and let Him know my concern and ask Him what I should do before talking to my fiance.. God will remind him either thru his quiet time, bible reading, a trusted friend, or when I try to let him know my concerns, he's VERY receptive of it despite me using "blunt" words (must be God working, I can't explain why otherwise)

Somehow I get this "feminine" label at times, but I'm really reminded of just how God's version of femininity is more heart than looks! I'm REALLY reminded of how "unfeminine" (i.e. controlling) I can be at times!! Just reminds me of how sinful I am and just how much I'll need to depend on God to get through the rest of my life! Especially to make this alliance-partnership I'll be signing on in about a year work and deliver resultssss :)

PS: I'm an engineering consultants, so my definition of an alliance =
"huge projects where SOMEONE needs to lead and set direction, EVERYONE wants to have a say and demands a lot, the whole project demanding a lot of work and effort from everyone, to deliver something of *usually* tremendous worth and profit - although it does comes with a huge liability involved if you don't carry through till the end."